Book One: What’s He Really Thinking?

What’s He  Really Thinking?
Paula Rinehart
Paperback: 224 pages
Publisher: Thomas Nelson; Orignal edition (June 2, 2009)
Christian Living

Being part of a publisher’s book blogging program is one of the ways I am working on obtaining my goal of 30 books in the year I turn 30 (other options include the library, audio books {I mean come on I drive half my life}, and of course the splurge of buying a beloved book or being given a gift).  One of the book blogging clubs I belong to had an interesting title I just had to order to read:  “What’s He Really Thinking?”.  This just tickled all my psychology buttons as everyone who reads this blog will know is a key component of my mental workings.

I love Psychology and how the brain works.  Yes, I admit I am guilty of reading books such as “Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus” and other embarrassing layman books for quick reads in the psychology world.  What I have found from these books has disappointed me.  Why?  Because in the end you lean back, close the book, and realize you just spent some priceless hours reading nothing buy common sense.  Sure there are a few facts and figures thrown in there that only research could tell  you, but in the end, if you look over at the love of your life you have to smile knowing you knew about 80% of what the book just told you.

This book however is different, this book is getting into how your man thinks and how you as a woman can show your understanding of his thoughts as a way of loving him.  Yes, us your power for good and not evil.  No, this is not a book on love languages (another psychology minded like book and feeling loved and appreciated), but rather a way to say, okay this is how my husband works, now how can I use this to understand him and how he loves me.  I don’t have to necessarily except this, but I can begin to start communicating this.

One example was how men are doers, and so many times we as women are racing around taking care of all the details of life (believing our husbands are leaving loose ends at every turn), but we don’t stop long enough to see that he washed our car.  Now this may seem small, or almost minute, but he is there to protect, to keep our cars in tune, our brakes working, our gas tanks filled.  He makes sure that we are supplied to continue on with our busy days when we are just too busy to take care of ourselves.  So yes, sometimes it feels like our men may be leaving little things such as getting our children dressed, or ordering pizza every time its his night to cooks, etc, but he is also there to pick up our wounded and broken pieces, or get this, keep us from having broken pieces, when we ourselves are too busy to care for ourselves.

Yes this book has the makings of a he said she said view point, but in the end its a book written by a woman, respecting a man, and showing that although his thoughts are different, they are equally as important and valuable to keeping our households running, and even more importantly, US as WOMEN running….we might be chicken with our heads cut off sometimes, but our men are there to carry our heads back to us when we are ready to finally take care of ourselves!.

Thank you Paula Rinehart for helping us take a moment to understand our men, and also understand how we as women can work with what our men are thinking and doing, not loosing site of our differences, but exploring how amazing God made each of us to work together with the uniquely opposite ways of thinking and doing.

I received this book free from Thomas Nelson as part of their BookSneeze program. The opinions I have expressed are my own. I am disclosing this in accordance with the Federal Trade Commission’s 16 CFR, Part 255: “Guides Concerning the Use of Endorsements and Testimonials in Advertising.”


Goal One: Books, Books, and More Books!

One of my goals this year, the year of turning 30, was to find little places throughout the day to enjoy me.  That’s right, selfish moments.  Altogether I believe we are a selfish race, us humans, always searching to fulfill that deep hidden desire.  Now I am of the belief that this selfish desire can only truly be tamed through the dying of one’s self, and being raised in Christ, however I still take joy in knowing that our Creator instilled in each of us dreams and ambitions that are still true beyond His fulfilment.  After all Christ is so outside the box how could we ever put a word to His creativy, and being made in His likeness, aren’t we just that much more due to seek out the joy in our everyday lives He so wishes to bring us?

With this in mind I am of sound mind, body, and soul to say “I can be selfish and enjoy life!” Even if it is stolen secret moments of the day with my nose in a book, my fingers crocheting, or my mind blitzing with new ideas of how to frame the next picture in color in my scrapbook… alas, GOAL ONE:  TO READ 30 BOOKS THE YEAR I TURN 30!  Yes this is an ambitious goal, and although it is March 16th today I believe full well that I can do this.

The one scary part of this goal is my need for variety, I have a feeling you will be hanging on to your seats as I skip from one genre to the next, take long breathing breaks to enjoy my time with my 3 year old, or just find myself self indulging in a nap rather than reading…of this I’m sure you can agree to as life in continuous motion.  No wonder one of my favorite rides of all time is a roller coaster….now if only I can figure out how to make my life a coaster one minute and the lazy river the next, I believe I would be a very rich woman.

What exactly do I mean by new?

As 2010 rolls behind me in blur, I find myself less content then ever.  I am turning 30 this year and with this I want new goals, new perspectives, new intentions.  They old way was not bad, but I’m exhausted on the one hand of too much drama, and bored on the other with things in my life I have let pass me by.

I am Wife, Mother, Daughter, Sister, Worker, Volunteer, Student, Home Owner, Dog Owner, and much more…too tired to think about just being me without any names attached I am going to take one for the team and add another name…Blogger…

Yes I have blogged in the past, but this time I have a goal.  I want to accomplish something with this blog….I choose to set goals here and now and show completion of those goals….

Here is to 2011!  The year of the Accomplished Goal…and what is that goal you might ask?  To be true to myself and enjoy the life God has blessed me with.  One of the ways I can do this is through reading…over the course of this year I would like to read as many books as my life will allow and blog about my opinions of these books.

Some blogs of course will be about life, some will be about dreams, but then some will drawl me back to my goal.

The name of this blog is Clay because I am to be molded by God into a treasured tool He can use…opening up and learning about our world is just one of the many ways I can do this.  Literature here I come!